So welcome back.
I'm hoping you found that demonstration relatively interesting in the last exercise although you may
be a little bit confused as to what exactly happened and what actually went on.
No.
I followed the process of asking Curran these 15 questions and these exact 15 questions you cannot access
right now in the additional material section of this video Ledger you can print them off.
You can reword them change them round slightly but I wouldn't change the order because if you notice
what I was able to do in the last video was Gayed current rate through the process of becoming crystal
clear and what her problem actually was.
Without going into this story and the feelings all that sort of thing we actually focussed on was the
facts the actual truth of what the problem was for car and what it meant from current what she saw.
The main problem is being what it was she actually wanted.
And if you think about it the main problem that anyone has in life is when they see a barriere in between
where they are and where they want to be.
You remember the difference between self esteem and self concept.
For Karen.
Karen was worried that she wouldn't be able to get what she wanted which fundamentally was just in our
case.
If you think about it that makes a lot of sense as we consider what curran's main problem was.
Curran's main problem was worry right.
She's a worrier.
She's my wife.
I know fine well she's a worrier alright.
So that was actually quite an interesting exercise for me to conduct my life here.
But if you look at what Karen actually wanted she wanted peace.
No peace is kind of the opposite of worry.
There's an internally one a worrying or were angry were looking at this quite intense negative emotional
state and peace is the complete opposite of art.
If you think about it war peace sometimes we can feel war within ourselves then other times when we
don't have a care in the world we're at complete peace and we're only ever out war within ourselves
when we're thinking over our life.
So we saw what I had done practically throughout the exercise was just stuck to the script.
I have absolutely no idea what it was that Curran meant in detail when she answered those questions
but all that I did do was just simply reflect back what it was that I was hearing car and say to me
just so that we could come into complete alignment and so that Karen was hopefully able to feel that
I was just there with our all I was really doing was just coaching.
Curran's truth I wasn't going fishing for thoughts or for beliefs or for feelings or opinions.
We're not talking about therapy here or I'm talking about coaching which is very very different sorts
of tell me current.
If you could use one word to define or describe what that experience was like for you in relation to
to me me in there as your coach What word would you use.
Supported supported right to know.
I know what supported means to me.
And it's fair to assume that Karen knows what supported means for her and this is fundamentally always
an unscripted video as you're probably aware because we mumble our words and sometimes I can have a
little Freudian slips every now and again but that's fundamentally the the ideal outcome for for you
to experience or for your client to experience through you that they fundamentally feel supported.
I haven't offered Karen any insights of not tottery anything if not trying to be her.
Do I just simply for this exercise ask the questions one at a time and then simply reflected back what
it was that I was hearing horror.
See if I reflected back something that was inaccurate and not a true and accurate representation of
what was cut meant.
And given her the time and the space to be able to correct me if necessary.
But this all wasn't so much about me being correct but it's more about courage just coming completely
clear on what was going on inside of her so that she could gain clarity into specifically what our problem
is.
Saw what the gall is that if she wants to work towards school violence all for now that's a demonstration
they're deconstructed.
And I hope this makes sense to you no this is just one part of the life coaching process.
But what we're starting to look towards now is defining the specific roots of the problems that people
have which by know I'm hoping you are able to realize are always going to take shape or form in a limiting
belief of some form of some kind.
So you can use these 15 questions and bear in mind because most life coaches or the use or their you
know their circle of life and life balance questionnaires on all these things are good.
What we're starting to get towards now is the core problems you see can help someone make more money
or get a better career in life.
But that for me would seem more like putting a sticky plaster over an infected wound.
It's the limiting beliefs that people develop through life that act as the source of all infection.
If we can deal with the limiting beliefs that hold people back in life then anything else that we go
on to do is kind of like put in the walls on the roof and the chimney top on the building.
The words were building dealing with the limiting beliefs is like dealing with the infection of all
people's problems at source.
So I'm going to strongly urge you know not to watch anymore of the course.
Right which may seem like a bit of a funny thing to say but print these questions off or download them
once you're 14 or whatever device you're watching this course on right now I'm to see them on the next
person you meet.
Call this a physical challenge.
Right.
And if you think about it the first question is is this.
I'll just do a little interview here.
I'm hoping you could be a test subject for me.
And what is the problem or our problem or limitation has held you back for a while and then just simply
follow through the 15 questions.
Tick them on the journey and then just ask them for some honest feedback about how they find you.
Once you have worked your way through all the questions so that's your homework exercise earned.
Once you've conducted that look forward to seeing you again in the next video.
Thanks Karen.
And would probably get just as current again later on in the press in the next glamour.